Sometimes as much as the people who loves us want to understand what it is that we are going through, they just don’t know. No matter how hard they try. Yeah, they can be empathic and pretend how it would be like to be in our shoes and understand it that way. It’s nothing like the way we do it.angel statue

When we say we understand them. We mean it literally!

I mean, we can feel what they are feeling…emotionally, energetically, and physically! We are not pretending. Our body aches where they ached and we feel their emotions up and down.

As much as they want to try to understand. They just don’t. I can’t blame them. They are the way they are. Just as we are the way we are.

Which is why it’s so important to talk to another who is just like you and me. Who is also an energy sensor.

Let me tell you. It gets lonely sometimes. Even though my husband is also an empath. It’s just not enough, we need more than one outlet to connect.

It’s crazy when I think about it, because there is so many of us out there yet we are all isolated. Pockets here and there. It’s just our nature to want to be isolated and far away from the crowds. Nevertheless, there’s is still a lot of us out there. And sometimes we just want to know we are not alone. Completely alone.

I moved out here to a small remote island in the Philippines and sometimes it drives me a bit crazy. Especially, when I have those intense sensitivities…and I feel like the world gets way to big for me to handle.

Ever had one of those moments?

And you just need to bond with those who knows what you going through. Connect. Just to say, yeah I understand. I’m not COMPLETELY alone on this experience. It’s just so sad because there’s so many of us out there who are probably feeling the same. Feeling like we are the only one going through this or that experience and no body to really understand what we are feeling.

That’s why I made EmpathSolutions.com in the first place. So people like us can connect, bond, and share things that work for us to help us work through such experiences. And to not feel like we are an alien on this isolated world…ALONE, and no one understands us.

I invite you to get active on the website.

And besides this, I will be doing my first telesiminar where i can answer your biggest question or challenges as an empath, please email your questions to faey(at)empathsolutions(dot)com.

I can’t know if you don’t ask. No telepathy powers for me just yet. :-)

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As an empath it can be confusing living with others.

What’s mine? What’s yours?

Differentiating others “stuff” from your stuff.

Whether it be in a house with our family, in an apartment surrounded by our neighbors, or at work with our co-workers. Trying to differentiate where energy or sensations is coming from can be tough. All our energies are smushed together like a bowl of soup.

Especially when it comes to others feeling bad, negative energies, unwanted emotions, sadness, anxiety, physical pain or ailment of some sort, and even confusing rambling thoughts in someone else’s head.

Yes, as an empath we tend to pick up these things more easily than others.  Heck, some of us who are empaths…and don’t know are empaths, tend to take it all in as it is OURS. And ours alone. That could be overwhelming.

So just how do we tell what is ours and what is others?

Even with handy techniques in our hands, there’s still times when we get so immersed in the energy that it’s fuzzy to pick out where everything is coming from.

There’s hope… this one technique has saved me on countless times!

When the direction or source of that “UNWANTED” energy can’t be detected anymore, it’s wise to step out for a second. Simply get up and take a nice walk to sever the energy ties between you.

That’s it. You just have to remember to do it. Comment below and let me know how it worked for you.

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Meet Skilled and Conscious Empath, Dr. Michael R. Smith…

Today, I like to have an amazing teacher and a good friend of mine share his story.

Let us know how he discovered about his empathic nature…and started his spiritual journey.

And how he is now making pathways and breakthroughs for the rest of us fellow empaths. Finding nuggets and tools to help all empaths and highly sensitive individuals who are ready to become a skilled and conscious empath themselves!

Becoming a Skilled and Conscious Empath – A Spiritual Journey

By Michael Robert Smith

Armed with a Ph.D. and a lucrative counseling professorship at age 30, I embarked on what was to be one of the shorter careers in the history of academia. Despite being nominated for early career awards and authoring a half-dozen research publications, I decided to leave my tenure-track position at the University of Wyoming in 2005 after just three years to begin working with empaths in Santa Fe, NM. I had to follow my heart. After I realized I was an empath, there was no turning back.

The cultural identity of empath is rapidly growing and gaining mainstream acceptance; Dr. Judith Orloff’s best-selling holistic healing books are evidence of that. The primary characteristic of an empath is a high degree of sensitivity to the emotional state of other people. If you’ve ever been told that you’re a good listener, then you might be an empath. People feel comfortable sharing their emotions and deepest thoughts with empaths, and thus, we tend to be especially popular around high-stress times like the holidays.

However, an empath’s ability to bond with others can lead to unintended health consequences. In many cases, empaths will take on other people’s emotional pain as if it was their own. In toxic situations, intense emotional energy can affect an empath deeply. We can unintentionally absorb emotions, like a sponge. I walked around for years with what felt like two fishing hooks stuck in my heart area.

In 2003, I sought out healing for my accumulated emotional and physical pain. I began a five-year apprenticeship with two Native American healers and drove the 8-hour trek from Laramie, Wyoming to Santa Fe every month. I quickly discovered why counseling came so easy. The Native American community recognizes empaths. These individuals have been trained as the medicine men and women in tribes and communities.

Research has shown that approximately twenty percent of people are highly sensitive in general. In my experience and observation, fewer still are empaths (those sensitive specifically to other people). Perhaps 5 percent of all people are natural empaths – and most don’t recognize it. I am seeing women and men who have lived their entire lives wondering what was wrong with them, being called hypersensitive or oversensitive – who can now breathe a sigh of relief. What was thought to be a quirk or even mental illness in actuality is a special gift for being able to understand the emotions and motivations of other people.

In my coaching practice, I help empathic individuals differentiate what energy is theirs, and what is coming from other people. We work on coping strategies to manage the high sensitivity and prevent the absorption of harmful energy.

I’m so happy and privileged to work in this special field with empaths, helping us to become more joyful, more skilled, and more conscious of the tremendous spiritual gifts with which we have been blessed.

For more helpful energy tips and techniques to help Empaths & Highly Sensitive People (HSP), check out Dr. Michael Smith’s The Complete Empath Toolkit: 44 Practical Steps to Master Your Energy and Personal Power.

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Being an empath can feel like a curse instead of a gift. This is especially so when we don’t know how to deal with it.

Moreover, we can feel like a victim to the different things happening around us… Even feel things going on are bigger than us. Taking in so much emotion, thoughts,and physical pain of others we can feel overwhelm and over consumed by the intensity.

… and we wonder “Why me?”

When it feels like it’s just too much, this one phrase could help you put things into perspective.

“We all are affected by each other regardless if we are an empath or not. You affect me. I affect you. Even if some of us can not sense it  to the degree and intensity as we [empaths] can, never the less, they are affected. Because WE ARE ALL CONNECTED. ”

I picked this up from a good friend and teacher of mine, Dr. Michael R. Smith. If you want to learn more about being an empath and how to work with your gifts and abilities, or simply just need more guidance, or pick on a skilled empath’s brain (who has over 15 years of experience in helping empaths and highly sensitive people (HSP) connect with their highest self bringing out their full potential) I highly recommend you to get a copy of his ebook The Complete Empath Toolkit: 44 Practical Steps to Master Your Energy and Personal Power. It’s a life saver!

He is truly a gift and inspiration to us fellow empaths for the work he does. We can always use more people with loving heart and patience. Michael is definitely shaking up the world with his work. I invite you to join us in the journey of discovering your unique abilities.

I’M READY TO WORK WITH MY GIFTS —> Click Here to Get Started Now!

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Welcome to the beginning of the Empath Community Forum where Empaths and Highly Sensitive People get together to share and gather information… And of course, to get to know each other and build support and understanding for their empathic abilities.

This is the place to connect with people who understands you.

Find answers and tips to not only cope with your sensitivities and empathic traits but thrive as an Empath and a highly sensitive person.

Join in the talk at Empath Community Forum. See you there!  :-)

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Good morning everyone!

Today, I want to introduce you to Dr. Michael Smith –he’s a kind soul who has been coaching and elevating the lives of those individuals known as Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Empath to live a more fulfilling healthier life.

Michael Robert Smith holds a Ph.D. in counseling from the University of Nevada-Reno. He has 15 years of experience in counseling, shamanic traditions, mind-body energy medicine, holistic healing, and intuition development. A former professor at the University of Wyoming, he lives in Santa Fe, NM where he coaches empaths and highly sensitive people in energy management. He is the author of “The Complete Empath Toolkit,” and “Empath Intuition” audiobook.

Below is one of his insightful articles I like to share with you:

I’m an Empath – Now What?

By Michael Robert Smith

Has anyone ever said “you have a trusting face?” Do you find yourself listening with ease to other people’s problems? Do strangers easily share intimate secrets? If so, you probably have gone through life being more affected by other peoples’ energies than you realize.

As an empath, you are someone who has been hard-wired, from birth, to perceive and experience the thoughts, emotions, physical sensitivities, and spiritual urges of other persons. It is much more than being a highly sensitive person, and not limited to just emotions. For you, it can be like living an episode of Star Trek! You don’t even have to try and you just know the motivations and intentions of other people.

You cannot change the fact that you are an empath. It is akin to your eye color. You either are or you’re not. Being an empath is not teachable; it’s not something to learn. However, you can learn to become a skilled empath and manage your empath nature. Hopefully you have, or will now, make it your intention to modify the intensity of the empath experience through adaptive means (meditation, movement, grounding, wearing protective stones). However, it is quite common for empaths to modify the feelings through not-so-adaptive means (alcohol, drugs, addictions). If you fall into that category, it is completely understandable and you are not alone! Almost every empath whom I have encountered has, at one point or another, sought to alter their mood through addictions.

The definition of being an empath means you are always “on,” constantly available to process other people’s feelings and energy. As an empath, you have a gift, or in many cases, what may feel like a serious curse! For now, let’s set aside any notions of judgement. Even if it feels like an overwhelming burden, which it certainly is at times, our responsibility as an empath is to ourselves first, others second. So with that in mind, let’s focus on how we can take responsibility for managing our energetic sensitivity.

Beware, though. Identifying and recognizing yourself as an empath may give you a charge. It may cause lingering sensations of relief, bordering on giddyness. You will come to understand that as an empath you are not alone.

So with that in mind, let’s talk about what I have found are 5 of the most helpful methods of keeping yourself clean, strong, and healthy as an empath, free of the negative energetic influences of others.

1. REFRAME YOUR MENTAL OUTLOOK

Being an empath is indeed a burden at times. To be maximally effective, we must do what counselors call reframing, that is, changing our mental outlook so there is no room for blame. We can do very little to change our currently inherited genetic characteristics (although I believe that prayer from a sincere heart can change the past, present, and future. But that’s a whole other story for another book!).

Somewhere along the line, it is my belief, and my personal belief only, that empaths have agreed to help come to the Earth in this time of tremendous social, political, and environmental transition to be the “vacuum cleaners.” Empaths are the ones whose task it is to clean up the suffering that we individually and collectively created in the past. This is a personal outlook that serves to help put my gifts in perspective. It also helps to promote what I believe to be my serious responsibility to myself and others. And whether or not you choose to view your empathic nature in these terms is ultimately up to you.

As empaths, It is helpful to take a close look at our personal narrative. What are the stories that we tell ourselves as we wash dishes or peel potatoes? If we believe in a story that we need protection from evil spirits or negative energy, then we more likely set ourselves up for the manifesting of that scenario. As empaths, we understand what’s it’s like to be knocked around by other people’s energy. However, I don’t think that it’s maximally effective to focus on just protection. If we focus instead on how to maintain a strong healthy aura, any negative energies will be naturally and automatically dispelled. Negative energy cannot exist in the presence of light. To use a sports or political metaphor, it’s a question of whether you want to be on offense or defense. Focusing on promoting positive strengths is almost always more effective than a mental outlook that’s designed to protect your empath energy from invasion. That said, it is absolutely true that empaths need protection – we just don’t want to overdo it.

2. USE PROTECTING STONES AND WEAR A MEDICINE KIT

Stones have been known for their healing and protective properties for thousands of years. Stones are the oldest material on the earth, they are living creatures who offer their medicine to us if we will use it. Stones can be worn by carrying a medicine pouch around your neck or by wearing stone jewelry. I have found that the three best repellants for negative energy are Tourmaline, Onyx and Obsidian. Just like you, your stones must be cleaned regularly. I clean my stones usually every few days, depending on the intensity of my daily empath interactions. Give your stones at least 2-3 hours of direct sunlight in a crystal or glass bowl filled with sea salt and water. If you can’t get access to sunlight, run them under some tap water. It does almost as good a job.

3. USE NEW TECHNOLOGY

The first products that deserve mention are far infrared lightwave (heat) producing mats that penetrate deep into the body. I own a massage-table size product called the Amethyst BioMat that I have found indispensable in cleaning out energy. I lay on it every day when I feel energy accumulation. It uses far infrared heat, coupled with negative ions and the healing power of Amethyst, to increase blood circulation, thus producing an artificial fever in which the body’s immune system is stimulated. As you relax on top of the warm Amethyst, toxins are scrubbed away in as little as 30 minutes a day.

The second set of empath products worth looking into are the Electromagnetic field (EMF) protectors now on the market. It has been my experience that finding the right EMF protector for one’s unique energetic makeup can be hit or miss. I tried several products without success before finding the EarthCalm pendant. It’s a scalar resonance electric circuit which grounds one to the Earth’s energy field. I could feel the energy swirling in my field the moment I put it on. It is really crucial to understand that everyone’s energy system is different. Some products, including the Earthcalm, may actually do the opposite of what they are intended to do and make your sensitivity even more pronounced. The Q-Link pendant is another option that many empaths have reported successful. I do not sell any of these products. I list them simply because I have found them to be helpful in my own experience and that of my clients.

4. MOVE!

Exercise and movement in any form are great ways for empaths to move out old energy and pull in fresh energy. Martial arts and yoga are two of the best methods for an empath. Even a simple movement of one’s arm might be enough, or even a simple acknowledgment that your wrist hurts. The body responds to our focused attention in-kind.

If you are intimidated by the concept of martial arts, then try yoga, Tai Chi, or a user-friendly practice such as Nia, which is now emerging worldwide. I certainly wouldn’t be as effective without my daily Nia practice. Nia is a practice that re-trains the nervous system by combining a series of intentional, healing body postures with the power of dance and yoga. I find it to be the most joyful and playful experience of every day.

5. PROGRAM YOUR BRAIN WITH AFFIRMATIONS AND PRAYER.

Actual physical voicing of particular words and sounds produce a powerful effect in our empath energy fields. In the coaching work that I do with empaths, this is known as neuro-linguistic programming. The brain and body are programmed to produce good feelings with the repeating of certain mantras, words, or phrases. The process is designed to stimulate the empath nervous system into intentionally producing the actual energetic vibrations and feelings of peace, happiness, joy, and tranquility. I have a CD/mp3 album called “The Empath Experience” available on Amazon if you are interested further in this topic.

When you become a conscious empath, you will dramatically reduce your stress and anxiety, improve your mental outlook, improve relationships, and lead to a freedom and liberation previously unknown. You will be able to create joy where none was before present. In situations where you previously felt trapped, you now can bring in positive energy to change situations. You’ll begin to light up other people’s lives in a new way, and fulfill your destiny as an empath to help others. All of these skills take practice. With time, they will come more naturally. At some point, you will reach a tipping point; a critical point where your awareness exceeds your unconsciousness. It takes work on yourself to get to this place. Some empaths go all their lives and never reach it, but only for lack of will. If your will is strong enough, you will reach a place of emotional maturity and become a skilled empath.

For more helpful energy tips and techniques to help Empaths & Highly Sensitive People, check out Dr. Michael Smith’s The Complete Empath Toolkit: 44 Practical Steps to Master Your Energy and Personal Power.

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Ever feel overwhelmed by your environment? Does it sometime feel like others energy soaks into your personal space? Ever catch yourself feeling exhausted, angry, irritable, moody, or sick for no reason–it just came like a sudden flood out of no where? Have you ever asked yourself why you are so sensitive to others around you and the environment?

The good news is these feelings might NOT be yours.

You may be what others call an “empath” also know as a “highly sensitive person” (HSP). Empaths are highly sensitive of the environment and energy. Often they can sense others energy and even absorb others energy. They can sense how another person is feeling just by being in proximity or seeing the person as if the feeling is in their OWN body.

The following list is provided by Michael R. Smith, Ph.D of EmpathConnection.com to help you discover if you are an empath.

You May Be An Empath If…

1. You look at someone and “just know” their emotional state.
2. You can feel the energy coming at you (or being drained) from another person, especially from the eyes.
3. You have a blocked feeling in your chest [or core], as if someone is tugging on it.
4. Tend to run away from people when stressed, rather than engage.
5. You’ve been called “oversensitive,” especially if you’re male.
6. Always know where danger may lurk. (Curiously, you may have avoided accidents).
7. Are drawn to the tranquility of animals.
8. Are drawn to mountains, nature, the ocean – anywhere outdoors.
9. Can not bear violence in any form.
10. Can easily produce tears, sometimes at will.
11. You can feel the physical aches & pains of others.
12. Feel better after a good, intense cry.
13. See things from the “bigger picture” and from “the larger scheme of things.”
14. Are overwhelmed by large crowds or mobs (e.g. shopping malls).
15. Can sometimes feel affected by the energy of the full moon.
16. Have intense, fantastic, and sometimes lucid, dreams.

If this sounds like you… You’re not alone.

Be sure to check out the TOOLs & TIPs in our Empath Tool Box and leave us your comments & suggestions.

And for more helpful energy tips and techniques to help Empaths & Highly Sensitive People, check out Dr. Michael R. Smith’s The Complete Empath Toolkit: 44 Practical Steps to Master Your Energy and Personal Power.

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Ever feel overwhelmed by your environment? Does it sometime feel like others energy soaks into your personal space? Ever catch yourself feeling exhausted, angry, irritable, moody, or sick for no reason–it just came like a sudden flood out of no where? Have you ever asked yourself why you are so sensitive to others around you and the environment?

The good news is these feelings might NOT be yours.

You may be what others call an “empath” also know as a “highly sensitive person” (HSP). Empaths are highly sensitive of the environment and energy. Often they can sense others energy and even absorb others energy. They can sense how another person is feeling just by being in proximity or seeing the person as if the feeling is in their OWN body.

The following list is provided by Michael R. Smith, Ph.D of EmpathConnection.com to help you discover if you are an empath.

You May Be An Empath If…

1. You look at someone and “just know” their emotional state.
2. You can feel the energy coming at you (or being drained) from another person, especially from the eyes.
3. You have a blocked feeling in your chest [or core], as if someone is tugging on it.
4. Tend to run away from people when stressed, rather than engage.
5. You’ve been called “oversensitive,” especially if you’re male.
6. Always know where danger may lurk. (Curiously, you may have avoided accidents).
7. Are drawn to the tranquility of animals.
8. Are drawn to mountains, nature, the ocean – anywhere outdoors.
9. Can not bear violence in any form.
10. Can easily produce tears, sometimes at will.
11. You can feel the physical aches & pains of others.
12. Feel better after a good, intense cry.
13. See things from the “bigger picture” and from “the larger scheme of things.”
14. Are overwhelmed by large crowds or mobs (e.g. shopping malls).
15. Can sometimes feel affected by the energy of the full moon.
16. Have intense, fantastic, and sometimes lucid, dreams.

If this sounds like you… You’re not alone.

Here are some solutions to clearing negative energy Mark and I found useful. Everyone is different, so try them out to see which ones work better for you.

The number one key is to STAY GROUNDED in your body. This means getting regular exercise, eating nutritional food, and cutting out overstimulating things in your life.

Clearing Negative Energy In Your Environment:
1. Smudging your home with sage.
2. Doing Meditation and taking deep breaths.
3. Strategically placing bowls of sea salt in your home to protect you from entrance of negative energy. The salt acts as an absorbent to negative energy.
4. Using protective stones and crystals. Some good protective stones that repel negative energy are Onyx and Obsidian. While Amber and black tourmaline acts more like absorbers. And Amethyst is considered a healing stone. So you may also want to consider wearing protective stone jewelry. (Just remember to clean the stones regularly with sea salt and water.)
5. Physically clean the place. This removes the old energy and keep the place in high vibration.

Elevating Your Personal Energy and Grounding Yourself:
1. Take a nice warm shower.
2. Take a nice bath using Epsom Salt. Epsom Salt is to help you cut the psychic connection with others so that they are no longer pulling you. Plus, it helps your tired body relax.
3. Use essential oil or scent such as lavender, eucalyptus, rosemary, etc. to calm and relax yourself.
4. Get a nice massage.
5. Meditate
6. Going outside for some sun.
7. Doing any type of physical activities that will help you stay grounded in your body. (e.g. Yoga, Tai Chi, martial art, jogging, boxing, exercise, or some kind of sports you enjoy, etc.)
8. Get some fresh air.
9. Connect with nature.
10. Going to ocean, forest, or mountain area also helps you rejuvenate.
11. Surrounding yourself around plants or trees of high energy.
12. Drink pure water. (Bless your water with positive energy before drinking it. And remember to thank it for purifying your body as you drink it.)
13. Eat proper balance nutritious meals.
14. Feel your emotions.
15. Take care of yourself.

We found some of these tips helpful:

Check out Michael’s Complete Empath Toolkit here.

Empath & Highly Sensitive People Energy Tips: Dr. Michael Smith

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